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Working Mom: Failure to Re-Launch

To work or not to work – what a question.
What a fortunate place I am in to have the option of considering this question. I use the term option very lightly…I consider it optional, my husband not so much. Eh.
With my first born gearing up to start pre-school in a few {very short} months, the question of me re-launching into the workforce has popped up. In every conversation my husband and I have had lately. It’s also popped up in every text, email, page, fax, smoke signal and hand delivered letter. But, at least he’s persistent?

Yoga Pants & Gymboree?
My pre-child self would have never dreamed of not returning to work. When I was running around the streets of Boston until all hours of the night – putting myself through school, working late shifts at a hotel to pay for said school, and even later shifts with a fake I.D. at Sissy K’s – I couldn’t have fathomed that one day I’d step away from literally the exact career I had always wanted and dive head first into #MomLife.

I would always be driven, leading to a successful and challenging career that allowed me to travel the world, buy expensive clothes and likely just be an all-around glamorous person that everyone finds endlessly interesting and effortlessly attractive. Never in my wildest nightmare dreams would I have pictured myself becoming someone who spends her time fake smiling at Gymboree, or a person who has traded in heels, blazers and skinny jeans for yoga pants and flip flops. Endless conversations about kids? Kill me. Going to bed by 9 every Friday? Bore. Oh, and having a car filled with diapers and kids toys? Never ever, ever would I become that person.

Enter: The Baby.
Oops. The moment Devan was born, I lost those heels faster than a newly 21 year old loses her self-respect at Sissy K’s on dollar draft night.
So, here I am. A different person, a different chapter. Maybe this person was there all along, but there are definitely some days when I look in the mirror and don’t recognize myself. I’ve traded in my life to be there 24/7 for someone else’s, and for a while that worked for our family. But things change, and now I decide – do I take back a piece of the “old me”, the person that feels much more familiar and easy to define. And if I do, what will I lose? What will my kids lose?

And of course, Mom Guilt.
I know I’ll miss the opportunity to snuggle with Devan before every nap. To spend our days finding fun things for him to do and explore, or just playing in our backyard. We are already so proud of the little person he’s becoming – without me there to guide him every day, who will he be? Will it change him in a negative way? Or will it make him stronger – seeing both of his parents working to provide for him?  And my biggest fear: when I am old and gray {hopefully still somewhat attractive, but definitely drinking a bottle of wine a day} and my children are all grown up, will I regret missing the time with them to work, help to provide and honestly, take back a piece of myself? There’s nothing like #MomGuilt to keep you up at night.

Decisions, Decisions.
Unfortunately, I don’t know the answers to these questions. Like many questions once you become a parent, I don’t know that there is a right answer. For now, I am working through it and exploring my options. As I usually do when I am faced with a tough challenge in life, I’ve turned to…books! And blogs. And quotes. And generally any form of writing because that’s what helps me to process.

If you’ve found yourself in a similar situation, I highly recommend checking out the blog Meg O on the Go, specifically ‘Working Mom Struggles‘.


A Dose of Us

We are going to begin this blog by recognizing a universal, can’t be argued with, don’t even try to tell me otherwise, truth: being a mom is hard work. Like forget-to-wash-your-hair, drink-wine-by-4pm, pretend-frozen-yogurt-is-dinner hard.

Whether you work full time and dominate the business world, or stay home with your children and live in yoga pants, we know it’s hard. We know it could be harder. And, we know it probably won’t get easier.

It’s especially difficult in a culture that celebrates independence and makes you question your ability to raise your spawn if you even consider asking for help. And let’s not forget the judgement. Is there even time in the day to discuss the amount of judging that parents do of one another? It’s more tiring than an over-active toddler that took a few sips of your iced coffee while you weren’t looking and refuses to sleep. Let’s hope that doesn’t happen again anytime soon…

We also know that every Mom needs a dose of something to get through the day. A dose of what? Humor. Friendship. Sarcasm. (More wine?) We could all use it.

Our intention is to provide an authentic voice to share the ups and downs of being a mom, a woman, a wife. Through our very detailed/somewhat obsessive research, we also hope to provide recommendations and information to make this season of your life just a little bit easier.

At the end of the day, we are all just trying to do whatever works, right?

Thanks for joining us – we hope you enjoy A Daily Dose.